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Arranged Marriages
The concept of arranged marriages is not a very unusual norm in India. It is
how most of the Indians get married. No matter how westernized India may have
become arranged marriages are still preferred in most of the Indian families.
The concept of arrange marriage may sound impractical to the Western world but
for Indians it is something they prefer. It is a system, which originated when
child marriage was a custom in the country. The purpose of child marriage was to
restrict the children from marrying outside their community and social status.
The practice mainly began as a way of uniting and maintaining the rich and the
upper caste families. Caste system gave birth to arrange marriage. The system
mainly developed to promote caste system or racism. The system of arrange
marriage has its pros and cons. On one side it is seen as a medium to promote
racism and class system. On the other hand it gives parents control over family
matters and members.
This system of arrange marriage, which originated mainly as the tool of the
upper caste people to protect their community and to maintain their social
status they wanted their children to marry someone from the same caste and same
social background. Eventually it spread to the lower caste of the society where
it is used for the same purpose. The rituals and customs of arrange marriages
vary depending on the caste and religion of the people or whether he or she is a
Hindu or a Muslim. Marriage is not just coming together of two individuals but
an alliance between two families. The practices of arrange marriage has almost
become synonymous with the Indian society and culture. Compare to earlier period
the practices are not so rigid at present. But one of the social evil associated
with arrange marriage is dowry in the modern Indian society. In most part of the
country arrange marriage is the best medium to take dowry. Nowadays marriages
are more like a trade than a social custom. People find it an easy medium to
make money. This is one of the biggest drawbacks of arrange marriages.
Among the other drawbacks is that the boy and the girl doesn't get to know their
future spouses before marriage. In arrange marriages it is not important to know
your partner before marriage. Two unknown people get married without knowing and
understanding each other. Just as every coin has two sides so do arrange
marriages. There are even arrange marriages in which the parents who love their
children and are concerned about their life take the consent of their children
when they decide their marriage. Arrange marriages are successful only when the
parent does not force their children to marry whom they don't want to marry. In
a marriage there should be mutual consent and understanding from both side than
only a marriage can sustain. Good arrange marriages happen when the parents
support and help their children to find their life partners according to their
desires and likings. Arrange marriages have certain ill effects on the society
like it is biased over a particular religion, caste and a race. It is not
healthy when parents are over protective and control their children's wishes and
desires in choosing their partner. It is wonderful when children are given the
right to make the final consent and decision on their marriage and also there
should be arrangements for the would be husband and wife to meet and to
understand each other.
A relationship cannot grow if there is no mutual consent and understanding from
both the parties. Whether it is love or arranged marriage people look for the
perfect life partner. But nobody is perfect on this earth. Everybody has certain
drawbacks. But if we really love somebody we should accept that person with his
or her faults and weakness. If we can accept a person the way he or she is than
only we can leave a happily married life irrespective of love or arrange because
the real success of marriage lies in love, respect, concern, empathy and loyalty
for each other.
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